Pamamanhikan is a Filipino ritual for the soon-to-wed couples. Participants are the groom's family, the bride's family, & of course the groom & bride! This is where the groom formally ask the bride's parents for her hand in marriage.
We started by setting the date first. Less than 11 months before our wedding day when we decided to sched pamamanhikan. It was a bit hard to finalize the date because we have to agree on a free day, from time to time nag-iiba, pero sa wakas nagkasundo rin sa isang common na araw which is Feb 17. After setting the date, confirmation kung ilan yung pupunta & anu-ano mga dadalhin nilang food, baka kasi yun din yung ihain namin sakanila hahaha! Tapos "orientation" sa parents ko, since this is a first in our family dahil I'm the only girl & the youngest in the family. They don't know what to expect baka daw tanungin sila anong i-cocontribute nila sa kasal namin hahaha! When we announced our engagement, we made it clear that we are going to shoulder everything & that we are not expecting anything from our parents or principal sponsors.
Walang kaba factor dahil both parties already met on several occasions. Nakapunta na din sila sa house before eh. To be honest, it's ok to me & to my parents na wala ng pamamanhikan, kasi they thought it's already an old thing to do nowadays. But Choi & his family sincerely wanted to formalize everything sa bahay namin. It is Choi's family tradition talaga.
Attendees:
Choi Carla
Choi's parents Carla's parents
Choi's sister with fiance Carla's 2 pamangkins
Choi's youngest sister Carla's 2 uncles
Choi's tita Carla's 3 cousins
Choi's cousin
Choi's lola & lolo
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| With my instant junakis, Nathan! |
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| Choi's parents |
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| Choi's sister & fiance |
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| Choi's youngest sis & his lolo |
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| Choi's lola |
Choi's family brought the food (sorry, no pictures! :p) like Kaldereta, Binagoongan, Fish Fillet, Tuyo Pasta (fav ko) & Mango Float, parang fiesta sa sarap at dami hehehe. My parents cooked Laing, Inihaw na Tilapia, Ensaladang Talong, Leche Flan & of course rice! I'll leave everything to your imagination na lang hahaha :) We also served sodas, red wine & coffee.
Yung event mismo ay hindi naman formal, parang dinner-get-together lang. Tapos konting discussion & sharing of info about sa wedding, yung sister din ni Choi is also getting married this year plus yung cousin din nila kakatapos lang ikasal last year. We did not talk about wedding expenses or who's part is this & that, chikahan lang talaga.Yung pinaka-formal na nangyari is when Choi gave his short "speech" asking for my parent's blessing. Talagang hindi na kelangan gawin yun, kasi pinapamigay na talaga ako wahahaha! Hindi naman din sila nagtagal sa bahay namin kasi dinner nga & they came from Manila pa & may pasok pa kinabukasan.
I suggest for soon-to-wed couples they do this "pamamanhikan" thing. It's really a good experience that both families meet & get to know each other before the wedding day itself. Depende na lang talaga yun sa family if they will do it the old school way, or not, or something in between. Make sure lang na clear ang mangyayari & syempre enjoy the moment with your family!
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